Therapy Can Work

Katherine Rabinowitz, LP, M.A., NCPsyA

Licensed Psychotherapist & Psychoanalyst
Union Square, Greenwich Village, New York, NY

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Therapy Can Work

Katherine Rabinowitz, LP, M.A., NCPsyA

Licensed Psychotherapist & Psychoanalyst
Union Square, Greenwich Village, New York, NY

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Boredom: Scourge or Opportunity?

Everyone gets bored once in a while. If it’s a chronic condition, it could be a symptom of depression. More often than not, it is temporary. As unpleasant as it may feel at the time, it is also an opportunity to let your mind wander where it will. Pleasantly surprising thoughts may arise. Boredom spurs creativity, and shouldn’t be avoided, swatted away or supplanted by distracting activity.

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Losing Weight: A Neverending Battle

The trap of going on a diet to lose weight is that it doesn’t work. You need to be thinking more in terms of a permanent change in lifestyle. One that you can live with. The problem with diets is that when you reach your goal weight and go back to eating the way you used to, it all comes right back. They call it the Yo-Yo Effect.

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You Are Not Responsible For Someone Else’s Feelings – Only Your Own (And They Aren’t Responsible for Yours)

A concept most of us have grown up with is that other people “make” us feel a certain way. Or, conversely, we’ll feel bad if we say or do something because it will “make” the other person feel hurt. Unfortunately we don’t have the power or control over someone else’s feelings, nor they over ours. We are responsible for our own feelings, and other people are responsible for theirs. The blame game is an immature way to approach emotions. Learn a more mature way.

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When Is It Time To Stop Therapy?

If you’re wondering whether it’s time to stop therapy, you should talk to your therapist about your reasons for doing so. Sometimes the reason you think it’s time to stop is precisely the reason to stay – you may just not know it yet. Other times, the time to end therapy is clear.

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Do You Just Have The Winter Blues or Could It Be SAD?

Many people experience a lowering of moods during the late fall and winter months. It could just be winter blues, or it could be SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). It’s important to recognize the symptoms and deal with them appropriately. Read on to see if one or the other applies to you.

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Social Media Fatigue: Are You Tired of Posting and Liking and Scrolling and Clicking and Posting….

Social Media Fatigue is becoming a well-known phenomenon that more people suffer from than are willing to admit. The statistics are grim. Your mental health suffers from social media addiction. A false self is presented online and may not be who you really are. And you may just be sick and tired of all the posting and checking and counting up Likes as a determinant of your self-esteem. Read this post for more detail.

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New Year’s Resolutions

Many people make New Year’s Resolutions. Most of them are bound to fail. Read about how to make realistic resolutions that have a better chance of succeeding, and how to diminish the likelihood that you will fail.

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Productivity Guilt – I Should Be More Productive, But I’m Not, And I Feel Guilty.

The pressure to always be “productive” can be relentlessly stressful. It makes people “forget” to take lunch because they just have to answer one more email, to not take paid vacation time even when they’re entitled to, because they think it will reflect badly on them, and so on. The opposite is true. Your brain needs to rest, and when you take breaks, take time away from being “productive” and give your brain the chance to recharge, study after study has shown that you will be MORE productive than if you keep on working without those breaks.

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I’m Bored. I’m Depressed. I’m Not Being Productive. What Should I Do?

For many people, the idea of not being “productive” at any given moment causes anxiety, guilt or boredom. There is a feeling of unworthiness, or being lesser than one’s best because of watching a favorite show, checking out Facebook, shopping, or any other activity that might be pleasurable. Relaxing, having fun, doing something that gives you pleasure is an important part of life. It rests the brain and does not make you any less worthy than would cleaning the apartment, doing work for your job, or any other job that is tedious. It’s ok to have fun.

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Self-Respect: One of Life’s Necessities

If you don’t respect yourself, people will not respect you. Self-respect is related to but not the same as self-esteem. Self-respect is about accepting who you are, and liking who you are, regardless of what you think other people think about you.

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What Is The Meaning of Life, or What Am I Doing Here?

What Is The Meaning of Life, or What Am I Doing Here? This is an impossible question to answer, because there is no single answer.  There are infinite answers. Although nearly everyone wonders about it at some point in their life, the answers often seem contrived, shallow or incomplete. I, for one, do not have…

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Spontaneity: Free To Fly Or Mired In Mud?

Spontaneity: Free To Fly Or Mired In Mud? If you’re a naturally spontaneous person, you probably don’t need to read this post. Many, if not most people aren’t. They live in their comfort zones, their routines, their planned-to-the-last detail trips to the same places they go year after year. Maybe it’s simple laziness – just…

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Your Emotional Energy – Drained Or Used Well?

Emotional energy is not infinite. (Looking at a three-year old you might think otherwise, but even they collapse eventually.) What’s important is to be able to use what energy you have in a useful way – not squander it on behavior, activities or interactions with other people that you regret later.

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What Is True Passive-Aggressive Behavior?  Recognizing It And Dealing With It.

“Passive-aggressive” is a term frequently used to describe what in fact is actually purely aggressive behavior. There’s nothing passive about it. This post describes what passive-aggressive is and isn’t, how to recognize it in someone, and deal with it effectively. It also challenges you to examine your own behavior for hints of aggression, passive or not.

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Closure: Accepting That It’s Over and Letting It Go

When any kind of relationship ends, it’s important to achieve a sense of closure, the feeling of finality, in order to be able to move forward. Positive feelings about your future will depend on your ability to let go of the past, on what you wish would stay forever but didn’t. Some of the steps you can take are featured in this post.

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Are You A Workaholic? Achieving A Reasonable Work-Life Balance To Keep You Sane

It’a easy to get sucked into the idea that the longer and harder you work the more likely you are to succeed. Maybe. But at what cost? Being connected all the time, feeling you need to finish today everything assigned to you in the morning will eventually cost dearly. Your physical and mental health will suffer. Your relationships with your friends, family and significant other will suffer. And you will suffer. Burnout is real. So is feeling good about yourself, your work, and your life outside your work. Don’t become a workaholic. If you’ve already become one, read on to learn to remedy it. It’s not fun.

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Mindfulness: The Importance of Living In The Present Moment

The phrase “being in the moment” is blithely bandied about without too much thought about what it really means, and what the consequences are for pretending it’s not important. This post offers an introduction to the concept, why ignoring it is detrimental to your physical and emotional health, and some tips on how to integrate mindfulness into your daily life.

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I Don’t Want to Be Vulnerable. It’s Scary!

Allowing oneself to be vulnerable is fraught with fears of being hurt. But it’s important to be open to it, to prevent the exclusion of other, deeper emotions, since you can’t exclude one emotion without excluding others. It’s also important because it’s one of the best ways to connect with other people. Understanding that one will cope with and survive feelings of hurt, rejection, or embarrassment will open doors to greater connections with people, and help you recognize the importance of it.

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Forgiveness – Why Should I Forgive Them? Why Won’t They Forgive Me?

Forgiveness is a complicated trait. How do we forgive what someone who has deeply hurt us? Pretend it never happened? Not possible. But developing compassion for someone you have wronged will free you up to have more energy, reduce stress, improve your health, make better choices, and live a fuller life. When you are the person who committed an offense to someone else, your physical and emotional health will improve when you can find a way to make attempts to repair the injury done to another.

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Do I Really Need To Take A Vacation? Absolutely!

The importance of taking vacation time cannot be overstated. Physiologically, the brain literally needs rest to be restored to optimum functioning. The mind needs to be away from day-to-day preoccupations to be most productive when returned to the task at hand. Your overall health, including things as serious as heart disease and stress levels, is affected both by taking and not taking vacation.

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Shop Till You Drop – Do You Have a Shopping Addiction?

Compulsive shopping that becomes an addiction can lead to serious problems. Initially, buying something feels like a reward and relieves anxiety. But over time the condition becomes chronic and cyclical, interfering with personal and professional relationships, and exacerbating feelings of shame, remorse and anxiety.

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I Feel Like A Total Fraud – Imposter Syndrome

Even someone who has been in a job for many years can have a moment or many moments where it suddenly feels like you have no idea what you’re doing. You feel like a fraud, an impostor. What am I doing here? The post addresses this issue, and quotes many famous people you will have heard of who feel the same way. You are not alone. See the end of the complete post for quotes from famous people you will know who often feel like a fraud!

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